Top 10 Ways of Finding Closure in Your Relationship...

As the song says, “Breaking up is hard to do.” Finding closure after the end of a relationship is often harder.
 “Closure” is a psychological term that simply means closing the door on something or someone. Closure means you leave the past in the past rather than dragging it out into the present again. In relationships, this means learning how to let go of that relationship and move on to another, possibly better, relationship. There are many ways to find closure. In fact, how you find closure will depend entirely upon your personality and particular situation. Here are the top ten ways to find closure after a relationship ends: 1. Declare out loud to a close friend that you accept that the relationship is over. Choose someone who will support you and help you stay focused on the present and future rather than dwelling on the past.
 2. Call the person you’re letting go and release them. Acknowledge that you still have feelings for them, the relationship isn’t healthy, and they’re free.
 * If it’s too painful to talk with them, write them a note.
 3. Refocus on yourself. You may have let your own interests slide while you were involved with your prior relationship. Now’s the time to shift your focus back to yourself and what you want to do.
 4. Find a new hobby or activity to replace the time with your ex. If you always went out on Friday nights, invite some friends over, instead, and watch movies. Or you could volunteer for a worthwhile charity.
 5. When you start thinking about your ex, call a friend to bolster your resolve. Ask them to restate your reasons for letting them go.
 6. Create a mantra or saying that helps you refocus. Keep telling yourself this mantra and before too long you’ll start believing it. You’ll also start acting differently as well.
 * “I am strong and I am over them” could be all you need to say, but it may be something more detailed like “I’m a wonderful person who is worthy of love, respect and happiness.”
 7. Remove things that remind you of your ex. At some point in the future you’ll be strong enough to look at these things with fondness rather than being tugged back to the past.
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